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100 Things First-time Moms should know

  • 2016-02-27
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100 things first time moms should know

I remember standing at the bookstore; 38 weeks pregnant with my big round belly staring at a gazillion books with big bold headings trying to grab my attention about parenting. “Which one should I choose?” I kept thinking.

I wanted to know everything about parenting but the truth is that the only way that you will ever know about parenting is when you actually become a parent yourself.

A book cannot prepare you, it can only guide you.

I don’t know if I’m the only one that feels this way but I think that when you become a parent the second time around you feel more confident about your decisions and you learn to just let some things go because you know that if you don’t – it will just be a never-ending battle.

They say: “Sleep when the baby sleeps” but honestly can you? I know that I couldn’t.

One of the most common questions in mom groups is: “What advice would you give a first-time mom?”

Let’s hope that today I can answer that… Thanks to the moms who shared their opinions in several groups that inspired this post.

you are a good mom

 

About Pregnancy:

1. Start taking folic acid the day you decide that you want to have a baby.

2. Try to avoid being heavily pregnant in summer because it’s a lot like being a volcano waiting to erupt.

3. Download a pregnancy app to track your baby’s development every week.

4. Eat what you feel like eating during your pregnancy and stop worrying about getting fat.

5. Cravings and baby kicks are the best part of being pregnant!

6. Love your body and the beautiful miracle that it is busy creating inside for you.

7. Magnesium deficiency is a common cause of morning sickness so make sure that you take your vitamins every day.

8. The fish oil tablet tastes like crap but is extremely important for your baby’s development. Try drinking it with fresh juice.

9. Morning sickness is the worst part of pregnancy – It can occur any time of day and anytime during your pregnancy. It can even stop and come back at a later stage.

10. Pregnancy can make you tired and emotional. Relax when you can and take a nap.

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11. Pregnant bellies are the cutest – so flaunt it.

12. Yes, it is possible to fart and burp at the same time.

13. Your feet will swell a little or a lot! Don’t freak out, just keep them elevated.

14. Enjoy the shiny healthy hair because soon it will be falling – a lot.

15. Don’t feel guilty if the baby’s sex isn’t exactly what you were expecting. It’s completely normal to feel that way.

16. Wash your baby’s clothes before use. Some clothing may contain chemicals like formaldehyde.

17. Don’t buy too many newborn sizes because babies grow extremely fast.

18. Onesies are more comfortable than 2 pieces. It is also so much easier to take out when there’s an explosion. 😉

19. Pack your hospital bag early and make sure that all of Dad’s and baby’s things are packed as well.

20. Birth plans are not necessary.

21. Don’t listen to other people’s “horror stories.” It will only scare you.

22. Educate yourself about C-sections and Vaginal births. Anything can happen, don’t be disappointed if it doesn’t go the way you wanted it too.

23. Giving birth is the happiest and scariest day of your life.

Postpartum:

24. Let your body heal. Don’t rush back to gym.

25. It’s okay to not fall head over heels immediately with your newborn.

26. Spend a lot of skin-to-skin time with your baby so you can bond.

27. It’s okay to hold your baby as much as you want – you can’t spoil a baby.

28. Crying is how newborns communicate.

29. Listen to your instincts, not Dr. Google.

30. Babies have their own schedule; they will guide you. Don’t try to do everything by the book.

100 Things I think first-time Moms should know

31. You can buy a breast pump and baby monitor on most medical Aids from your savings.

32. Nursing is natural but doesn’t necessarily come naturally – Don’t be disappointed if breastfeeding gets difficult or painful.

33. Watch breastfeeding videos and hire a lactation consultant if you need assistance.

34. What you eat after birth matters because it affects your baby’s diet if you decide to breastfeed.

35. Feeding on demand is 100% acceptable.

36. You are not a failure if you can’t breastfeed.

37. Formula feeding doesn’t make you a bad mother.

38. Never leave home without extra breast pads and another set of clothes for you and baby.

39. You will lose the baby weight but you may never wear those jeans again – your body shape may change.

40. You will have bad days, but loads of good ones too.

100 Things I think first-time Moms should know

41. Don’t forget to take time for yourself.

42. Don’t forget to take time for your partner.

43. Remember marriage will never be the same after a baby, a lot changes.

44. Date nights are important.

45. Make time for sex. Schedule it if you have too.

46. Sex can be painful the first few times after birth.

47. Post Natal Depression is a reality.100 Things I think first-time Moms should know

48. Don’t lie to make it seem like you have it together.

49. Don’t ignore how you feel.

50. Accept any help you can get for cooking, cleaning and babysitting.

51. Trust yourself.

52. Don’t ask Facebook for medical advice.

53. Don’t beat yourself up over every little thing.

54. It is okay to have a meltdown.

55. Invest in a baby carrier – it will make life easier when you alone at home and need to get work done.

56. Your baby will puke or poop all over you at least once.

57. Not all diapers are created the same. Cheaper is not always better.

58. Stock up on wet wipes. You don’t need a wipe warmer – hot water in a flask is fine.

59. Nappy rash? Leave your baby’s bottom in the sun for at least 5 minutes every day. The sun helps “bake” the rash.

60. Use cotton wool and water to wipe your baby’s bottom during the first couple months to prevent nappy rash or help heal one. Sometimes the material of the wet wipe can be too harsh for a newborn.

Epimax61. Epi-max works wonders for baby acne and eczema.

62. Buy lots of bibs and teething gel.

63. Buy a bottle of gripe water and nasal spray.

64. Invest in a non-slip bath mat.

65. Cut baby’s nails when he is sleeping.

66. Rub vicks/karvol on baby’s thigh before they inject to prevent a temperature if you are vaccinating.

67. The yellow line on the middle of the nappy is an indicator. Blue means your baby’s diaper is wet.

68. If you have a son – make sure his private part faces down when you put the diaper on. Trust me, this definitely does matter!

69. Always cover his private part when you changing his diaper so you don’t get pee in your mouth and face like me.

70. If you want to have a shower while baby is awake, put baby in a bouncer inside the bathroom with you. That way you can sing, watch baby and enjoy your shower. 😉

71.  Get out of the house with your newborn. Take a stroll down your street with baby in the pram.

71. Sleep deprivation is the worst. Babies don’t always sleep.

72. Download a baby schedule app to see how much sleep your baby is getting.

73. No matter how much you love your baby, nap time is never long enough.

74. Co-sleeping is acceptable and might be the only way you get some sleep.

75. You won’t stay friends with the same people once you’ve had a child. That’s okay

76. Find support groups.

77. Everyone feels unprepared.

78. If you don’t want to be judged, stop judging.

79. Don’t be too hard on yourself.

80. Expect that each baby will be unique.

81. Let the laundry pile up.

82. Your mom and mother-in-law might get pushy and expect you to do things a certain way. It’s okay to tell them you’ve got everything under control, even if you entirely don’t.

83. Let your husband or partner do things his own way.

100 Things I think first-time Moms should know

84. Don’t isolate the baby: he won’t break.

85. Make a to-do list of tasks big and small before you go to bed.

86. You will appreciate your own mother so much more now that you a mom too.

87. Stay at home moms feel guilty just as working moms do but it just may be for different reasons.

88. Parenting isn’t a competition.

89. Spending the entire day in pyjamas is acceptable. .

90. It’s okay to have a cocktail once in a while.

91. Research Growth spurts.

92. Every baby reaches milestones at different ages.

93. Babies are very forgiving.

94. Time really goes fast with a baby around and soon she will be a year old… than 2-years old.

95. Politics become more important now that you have a family.

96. Take pictures with YOU in them.

97. Write down the special moments… like the first walk, first time baby said “Dada”.

98. You don’t have to enjoy every moment.

99. Forgetting things is normal.

100. Laughter is the best medicine.

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Hi, I'm Shan. I'm an entrepreneur and a sucker for good adventures. I was listed in Forbes Africa 30 under 30 2019 and just recently launched my start-up – MomSays.

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20 comments
  1. Robin Rue (@massholemommy) says:
    2016-02-29 at 20:19

    I love this so much. I spent my whole pregnancy reading up on what it would be like having one and once he was here I found out quick that I knew nothing LOL!

    Reply
  2. Stacie @ Divine Lifestyle says:
    2016-02-29 at 21:40

    I adore this. You can do homework all day long on being a mom, but you don’t really know what it’s like until you have that baby in your arms.

    Reply
  3. Alyssa @ The Plucky Introvert says:
    2016-02-29 at 22:58

    What a fantastic, comprehensive list! This gives me something I can point my first time mom friends to!

    Reply
  4. Chelley @ A is For Adelaide says:
    2016-02-29 at 23:32

    This is a fantastic resource! We are thinking about baby 3, and this brings me back to baby 1. My biggest advice (after folic acid) is cherish every moment, even the hard ones.

    Reply
  5. Miles Basilio says:
    2016-03-01 at 02:47

    What a great list! I have a friend who is expecting their first baby. I’d highly recommend this to her.

    Reply
  6. wemake7 says:
    2016-03-01 at 03:51

    What a really great list! I remember looking and trying to find all the books I could to learn more too.

    Reply
  7. Christie says:
    2016-03-01 at 04:14

    I loved running down your list and shaking my head along the way. I wish I had read this as a first time mom, oh the memories

    Reply
  8. Run For Life (@uprun4life) says:
    2016-03-01 at 07:23

    This is an excellent list. As a mom, I tell new mom’s to trust their gut instinct and go with it. A mother’s intuition is very good.

    Reply
  9. Tatanisha Pitts-Worthey says:
    2016-03-01 at 12:57

    What a very helpful post! New mom’s should read this, will going to pass this to a friend who’s going to pop anytime soon. Thanks for this list!

    Reply
  10. Rebecca Swenor says:
    2016-03-01 at 13:30

    These are all awesome things new moms should indeed know before baby comes. I have never heard of Epi Max but it sounds like something I will have to share with my niece for her baby. Thanks for sharing the list of must knows.

    Reply
  11. Ryan Escat says:
    2016-03-01 at 15:44

    My sister will be a mother soon. She really need to read this.

    Reply
  12. Tammilee Tips says:
    2016-03-01 at 16:26

    It amazes me some of the things that moms are told. This is all great things that moms need to know before baby comes.

    Reply
  13. Kathy says:
    2016-03-01 at 19:07

    This is a wonderful list. These certainly are some great things to know. I still remember when I had my first born. This is a very helpful post for first time mothers.

    Reply
  14. Ricci says:
    2016-03-02 at 18:05

    This is a great resource for first-time moms!! I will definitely keep this handy for when I have a baby one day!!

    Reply
  15. itsashort says:
    2016-03-03 at 00:19

    Love this resource and such a wonderful way to encourage expecting Moms!

    Reply
  16. Lisa @bitesforbabies says:
    2016-03-03 at 04:35

    I love this! And it is definitely a great resource for moms…like one-stop shopping! Everything you need to know is in this post 😉

    Reply
  17. Carina says:
    2016-04-12 at 20:03

    Beautiful instinct. At the end of the day each mom will do what’s best for her and her own baby because everyone is different. Trust yourself and your instincts. Thanks for all the tips here. It’s really going to come in handy when baba makes his arrival ♡ I’ve forgotten everything already and feel so unprepared.

    Reply
  18. Sugar Links says:
    2017-10-05 at 10:45

    This is highly recommended for pregnant women… Wow.. its so good to be here

    Reply
  19. awuchaezekiela says:
    2018-02-20 at 12:11

    This is highly recommended for pregnant women… Wow.. its so good to be here

    Reply
  20. Jahnavi Jaanu says:
    2020-04-06 at 16:33

    This post is like a guide for first time moms. The things about every aspect is so very well listed and shared. Thanks a lot for sharing the post.

    Reply

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