15 Things No One will tell you about Motherhood

Since Mother’s day is around the corner, I decided to blog about all mom related topics… Anyway for many, it will be their first mother’s day while I will be celebrating my second. I remember the day I found out I’m pregnant, I was excited but scared and the day Kitana arrived, I was so confused. How would I know if she’s hungry or sick? Does this cry mean she’s sleepy or hungry? Everyone gives you advice but do they tell you what you need to hear or what you want to hear?!

15 things no one will tell you about motherhood:

1. It’s okay to cry.
I cried a lot… I cried when I was happy and sad. I never understood the reason behind it… It could be hormones or me being depressed but it happens. Being a mom isn’t the easiest job on the planet, many tears will be shed between you and your baby. Sometimes you will even cry with baby.


2. You learn best when you alone with baby.
The only way I learnt how to raise my child was by my own, sometimes moms have no idea what they doing but we do it because our gut tells us too. You figure things out as time goes by. You don’t need 5 different people telling you 5 different things.

3. You will make mistakes.
No mom is perfect, we all made mistakes or regret doing something. You can’t be there to prevent every fall or bruise. It will happen and you will get better at this new role.

4. Say goodbye to privacy.
You will have to learn to deal with a smaller version of you following you around 24/7. When you in the bathroom, in the kitchen or washing clothes.


5. Bye bye clean house.
I would never sleep with sheets that had pee on it but now I do. Who has time to change the bed sheet at 1am in the morning?! My living room has toys everywhere, I just put them aside and walk.


6. You will sing and dance even though you can’t for peanuts.
Yup we want to rock baby to sleep! Let me sing or attempt to sing twinkle twinkle little star.

7. Bye bye convertible and hello mini van.
Safety first, boot space second, hot wheels last. You need to carry a car seat, nappy bag, food, clothes and lots of toys! Traveling in a big car is the easiest if you have more than 1 kid.

8. Breastfeeding is tough.
I always thought breast-feeding was the easiest until I started… From milk ducts to leaky boobs messing my shirts daily. It’s the best but not the easiest to wean.
a). She’s addicted to the boob.

b). I own way too many loose clothing.

c). I don’t own my boobs anymore, she does.

d). Everyone sees them.


9. Your relationship with your in-laws change.
Ever since Kitana was born I’ve become much closer with my in-laws. It was a difficult journey for us but I love the space we are at the moment.

10. Mani and Pedi becomes a mini vacation.
The only time I really relax and get time out is when I’m having my monthly treatments.


11. You will gain and lose friends.

Oh yes I’ve lost many friends over the past 2 years but I’ve also gained many new friends who understand me better now as a mom.

12. Google will become your best friend.
When should I start sleep training? *Types on google*.
My child has a pimple on her nose, is that normal? *Types on google*


13. Your lingerie is gathering dust.
Would you be comfortable wearing that knowing baby is next to you?! Especially if you co-sleeping.

14. You stalk baby sales and expos.
Well I know I do… I love nappy sales!

15. Motherhood is never boring!
Every day is a new challenge and something happens that I can never forget! Enjoy your moments 😉

 “Being a mother is learning about strengths you didn’t know you had and dealing with fears you didn’t know existed.” — Linda Wooten

Read https://www.youbabyandi.com/you-know-youre-a-mom-when/


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Hi, I’m Shan. I’m an entrepreneur and a sucker for good adventures. I was listed in Forbes Africa 30 under 30 2019 and just recently launched my start-up – MomSays.

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  1. Amy
    2014-05-06 / 09:07

    Love this Shaney, most of them are true for me too. But motherhood is the BEST and GREATEST rewarding job in the WORLD!!

  2. kalay
    2014-05-06 / 10:15

    Wonderful.love this

  3. Hope
    2014-05-07 / 05:53

    It was very great getting to know most of the things I didn’t know about,it has really helped me and yes motherhood is the best thing ever and a wonderfull Gift from our LORD above»Thanks A lot 🙂

  4. 2014-05-08 / 18:56

    So true… love this very helpful for first time mums …lol

  5. Lauren Thompson
    2014-09-24 / 19:48

    I’m going through the losing friends phase. Its really tough. But love meeting moms and connecting with them. Guess you win some and lose some.

  6. lameez
    2015-04-27 / 13:01

    So true , things change a lot the moment we a mother ..I loov ur post 🙂

  7. 2015-04-28 / 11:06

    OMW, did you write this for me???? So true! Untidy house, no privacy… I am very good at making mistakes, but atleast I learn from them.

    Lesson 1: Don’t give the key to your baby to play with when putting her in the car, she will lock the car as soon as you forget about it and close the door, this will cost you a new window.
    Lesson 2: Baby proof meds is not toddler proof!
    Lesson 3: Do not wear white!


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