Dating your husband

I get this question all the time: “How did you meet Vije”? and I only have one answer for that: Google .. Hahaha yes its true!

Let me highlight the story for you… Well I needed a photographer for models that I worked with, So I decided to search on the internet and I went to various sites but finally ended up on Vimage Media. I decided to email them (Vije) to get more info. So I did and we met and chatted… I did a trial photo shoot with him and that’s when it all started LOL…


After many weeks of chatting and meeting we decided to take our relationship to the next step… Years later we are now married with a gorgeous baby girl.

Vije and I are best friends, business partners, husband and wife. I love my relationship with him. God couldn’t have blessed me with a better partner. We think so much alike. We motivate each other and always speak what is in our heart.

My Tips for a healthy relationship:

1. Become Best friends with your husband

Do the things you used to enjoy doing together when you were dating!

Always be honest with your partner and share secrets.

2. Date your husband

Why not?! Send him some kinky messages once in a while or leave a sticky note on his computer.

Make sure you have date night at least once a month.

3. Surprise him

Whether it is getting him his favourite game or taking him out for dinner. Do something spontaneous.

4. Love him

Yes you need to show and tell him that you love him. Be affectionate.

5. Grow, Learn and Change together

Learn something new together. Try each others hobbies and support his interests.

6. Open communication

You are allowed to be honest and say what is on your mind and you are also allowed to forgive.

Help each other to become a better person.

7. Have fun

Yes! Just have fun. Laugh, giggle and do silly things together. Many people get married and then forget the meaning of fun and make marriage boring.

I believe marriage is just the next chapter of your journey with your loved one.

8. Motivate him

It’s important to always be there for your partner when his down or feeling demotivated. You are his strength and he is yours.

9. Work together

A marriage is between 2 people and not just 1. Both spouses need to work together in order for the relationship to work.

You’re a team and together you should make important decisions.

10. Do not let others come between you and your spouse. 

Stand together as one and believe in each other. You need to trust your spouse.

11. Hold hands in public

I know you may say: What?…… Yes holding hands is important.

A hand is more than 4 fingers, a thumb, and a palm attached to a wrist. A hand – your hands – have the ability to show love to your husband. Your fingers are 5 little things that make a huge difference in marriage.

12. Do not go to bed angry

I rather solve the problem or cool down and sleep then going to bed frustrated and angry.

Give your partner space but do not let space become the reason for emptiness.

Some lovely Quotes: 

“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”
-Mignon McLaughlin

“Being in a long marriage is a little bit like that nice cup of coffee every morning – I might have it every day, but I still enjoy it.”
-Stephen Gaines

“The older I get, the less time I want to spend with the part of the human race that didn’t marry me.”
-Robert Brault

“A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.”
-Robert Quillen

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Hi, I’m Shan. I’m an entrepreneur and a sucker for good adventures. I was listed in Forbes Africa 30 under 30 2019 and just recently launched my start-up – MomSays.

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    • Shan
      2014-02-04 / 20:47

      Thank you πŸ™‚

  1. 2014-10-29 / 15:02

    Thank you for the post, love the quotes too. living with someone for so long is a journey of rediscovering.

  2. 2014-10-30 / 05:48

    Awww such a cute story. It is important to date your significant other. Keeps the spark alive!

  3. 2014-10-30 / 11:06

    wow a awesome article certainly got a few tips to work on

  4. 2014-10-30 / 12:32

    This is a wonderful post – made me tear up, especially with everything Praven and I are currently going through.We’re nearly complete with our transplant workup and will be submitting documents to THe Ministry of Health for approval, wouldnt have done it all if he wasnt the one!!! Love your tips, especially #11, Praven always says “holding hands and making plans” :)These days people throw in the towel on a relationship way to easily. Fight ladies (and men) fight for your love fight for your family and fight for your happiness!!!! Its definitely worth it!!!!

  5. Courtney
    2014-11-01 / 19:30

    This was a fabulous post!!!! People really do need to date their spouse :):) thanks for sharing :):)

  6. 2014-11-01 / 19:36

    This is a great post, and so very true! So many people forget that marriage takes constant work to live up to its true potential! You have a lot of great tips here for keeping things alive!

  7. 2014-11-02 / 00:19

    These are great tips. Your husband is very lucky to have such a wonderful and caring wife.

  8. 2014-11-02 / 02:30

    Great post. My husband and I are best friends. We make sure to crave out time everyday just for us. It is so important for us to keep the spark alive.

  9. 2014-11-02 / 18:03

    great advice! as someone in a relationship for 4 years all of the above is absolutely necessary. And when you catch yourself in a rut you need to wake up and spice things up.

  10. 2014-11-02 / 19:49

    This is such a beautiful post and great tips that we almost always forget, loving the last quote its so true.

  11. 2014-11-02 / 20:40

    Great tips for healthy married. My hubby and I also meet via online, someone introduced us πŸ˜€

  12. desafio6
    2014-11-02 / 20:41

    I so love this post. I already do most of what you mention and some others I will be incorporating πŸ™‚

  13. 2014-11-02 / 22:15

    What a lovely post – all very good tips! I enjoyed reading the background of how you met your husband. I especially enjoyed the quote by Stephen Gaines —> β€œBeing in a long marriage is a little bit like that nice cup of coffee every morning – I might have it every day, but I still enjoy it.”

  14. 2014-11-03 / 00:39

    Love the quotes and the tips too. And isn’t life full of surprises? You actually met on “Google.” It’s meant to be. πŸ™‚

  15. Heather
    2014-11-03 / 01:43

    These are great tips! You definitely need to be best friends and you have to communicate and be good at reasoning with your spouse. Lovely post!

  16. michele d
    2014-11-03 / 02:58

    Love is definitely in the air with this post. As much as I would love to go on a date with my husband we never find the time to do it .

  17. Elizabeth O
    2014-11-03 / 03:18

    Date you husband it is (though I don’t have one yet). It’s so good falling in love and being in love with the same person.

  18. 2014-11-03 / 03:32

    This is such a great post and love how you met. I am so in love with my husband of 14 years, and we still do sweet things for each other. Wishing you many blessings and much love! πŸ™‚

  19. 2014-11-03 / 04:01

    Aw thank you for shaing these! I got inspired!

  20. 2014-11-03 / 06:30

    It’s a shame that posts like this are necessary to remind people that their relationship is more important than themselves. Thank you for the reminder!

  21. 2014-11-03 / 14:08

    Great tips πŸ™‚ I think it’s so important to have a strong friendship in your relationship.


  22. 2014-11-03 / 15:19

    Great post I think being married so long you get complacent. Great reminders on how to keep a marriage alive!

  23. 2014-11-03 / 16:04

    I agree with your list. I love seeing couples hold hands and have their arms around each other in public.

  24. Aisha Kristine Chong
    2014-11-03 / 16:37

    thank you for those tips you have – I do believe that even after marriage – dating should still happen!

  25. Misa
    2014-11-03 / 17:37

    Your story with your husband and how it started was so cute and lovely. Though I’m not married yet but I’m dating my best friend too and I can relate to this post thanks for the tips!

  26. 2014-11-03 / 21:01

    Great post, I’m loving all the tips!!!

  27. 2014-11-03 / 22:43

    That is such a unique and sweet love story! I still date my husband after almost 3 years of being married. πŸ™‚


  28. 2014-11-03 / 23:23

    This is a great post! As a married woman of 17 years – all of these tips are so incredibly important.

  29. 2014-11-04 / 00:39

    This is such a good post with fab information , love the have fun so important.

  30. 2014-11-04 / 01:58

    We need more date nights. It’s hard to fit them in. My husband is really my best friend. I am for the hand holding thing too. I like to hold hands. He isn’t one for PDA…

  31. 2014-11-04 / 09:50

    People always think that the dating needs to stop when you’re married, but it needs to continue in order to grow and discover each other and your own self even more. I’ve discovered more when I was married, then prior to that as a single person. Although I’m no longer married (it was an amicable split), I can say that I discovered a lot more then. It’s much more fun when it’s with someone else. πŸ™‚

  32. 2014-11-04 / 12:45

    I love this post!! Even if I don’t have a husband yet, I could use your advice in the future! thank you for sharing!

  33. 2014-11-04 / 19:36

    Lucky you! Hahaha I always tried doing some of the things on your list.. But there are just things that really aren’t compatible no matter how much we tried.. πŸ˜€

  34. 2014-11-05 / 10:55

    These are so sweet! I need to keep these in mind when it is time for me to get married πŸ™‚

  35. 2014-11-05 / 19:28

    What a lovely story on how you met, I am so happy for you both πŸ™‚

  36. 2014-11-06 / 20:13

    Sweet tips. Having been married for a quarter of a century I totally agree with being friends with your spouse.

  37. 2014-11-10 / 11:07

    I still date my husband. Actually we’ll be dating this weekend and I’m sure he has a lot of surprises for me because he already made a promise long time ago πŸ™‚

  38. 2015-03-03 / 10:52

    Marriage, certainly a gift from God. Great post.

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