Can you imagine living in the days of the traditional ‘stay at home mom’, the time when women were “barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen”?
For Indian women, it was important to wear a sindoor (a red dot on your forehead) and dress up in traditional clothing (sari). Housewives had to make bread daily and keep a hot-pot of food ready before the man arrives home from work but over the years all that has changed. Society has become modern and now a “mom” isn’t your typical housewife anymore.
Moms are now CEO’s of big companies, musicians, models and even prostitutes. Many are breadwinners at home and more than a few are taking on a man’s job in the working field. Mothers today are not limited or restricted like back in the day.
When I first saw Kim Kardashian’s photo shoot, I was like: “OMG isn’t she a mom?” Just like others, I judged her but I shouldn’t have because I think Kim is a great mother. Nori is always well dressed and looks healthy. Yes, I know people still find it offensive because she has the role of a mother but she’s a working mom too. She’s a business woman who has to make decisions and sometimes it can affect her personal life.
Yes it is easy to be a mom when someone else is taking care of your child, but how realistic is that opinion? Don’t all working moms have nannies taking care of their kids? Kim may just be on another level – can we judge her? What would you do if you were in her place?
We cannot judge the type of mother that she is to Nori just because she did a nude photo shoot. Her business and her brand is “Kim Kardashian”. Kim has to maintain the image she’s created for herself.
The image of a mother has changed and I blame it on society. Today it seems that nudity sells and breastfeeding sucks.
Alyssa Milano recently tweeted that she got more negative feedback from her breastfeeding photo than Kim did with her nude photo – this alone tells me, we judge a mom doing what she’s supposed to be doing (traditional) instead of praising her for nourishing her child. We cannot blame one person for this, we all need to be questioned about it.
I think there’s worse things out there than worrying about Kim Kardashian’s butt.
The images of a mother, stereotypically, represents them as subdued, quiet, obedient servants to society. Let’s not forget they are women too. The roles may change after having kids but it doesn’t mean they have to change their personalities. We tend to generalize the image of moms with a blanket sweep of prejudice. Can you imagine blaming every car driver as bad because one of them cannot drive? So why do that to moms?
The question is really what contribution are we as individuals making to society? Do we sit back and accept what society feeds us, are we complacent or are we actively involved in unwittingly setting societies norms. As a mom am I leaving a legacy that my child would be proud of? Is society dictating who I am or am I led by my values and standards?