Sometimes I wonder if a child harness is my only option to keep my children safe in public?

I’m scared. The world is becoming a disgusting place to live in. People have lost their humanity.

Every day I read frightening stories of children being abducted, murdered or being sold as sex slaves.

My heart cries. Children are supposed to be the future of this world but instead we are treating them like a piece of meat.

Sometimes I wonder if a child harness is my only option to keep my children safe in public?

We try our best to protect our kids but sometimes things happen – even in front of us when we least expect it.

After watching a video this morning of a child being snatched only couple feet away from her mother, I panicked.

I ended up watching the video 5 times to see if I saw it right and each time I watched the child being snatched away, I jumped up out of fear!

It could have been my child, I thought to myself.

I’m a mom of two kids who does exactly what this mom did.

Trying to shop with two kids is difficult but we do it because we have no choice. We put one in the pram and hold the others hand or put them both in a trolley or we do exactly what this mom did.

But is that really keeping them safe?

My daughter is always running off wanting to explore on her own.

If I turn around for a minute, she disappears because she thinks it is funny and the perfect time to play hide and seek.

Once upon a time, it would be a great game to play in a store to keep the little ones entertained but in today’s world, it could cost you your child.

I’m always paranoid in the mall, watching over my shoulder and holding my daughter close even though she hates being restricted.

How do I keep her free but close to me?

That video made me think…

Think about a product I never wanted to purchase because I felt like I would be treating my child like a pet. I wasn’t even a fan of pets using it because, for me, it never felt right but the truth is that it helps.

Sometimes I wonder if a child harness is my only option to keep my children safe in public?

It helps keep them safe and close to you and that is important in today’s world.

I know this argument has gone on for years…

But think about it,

Have you ever had that moment when you look down next to you and your child isn’t there anymore?

That moment when you look up; you find her walking into a crowd of people who end up swallowing her in.

I did, it freaked me out. I felt like my world was falling apart as I ran in immediately praying to find my child…

To be honest, I was that parent on the other side who judged moms who used the harness.

I used to think that it was lazy parenting and barbaric behavior but not anymore.

Sometimes I wonder if a child harness is my only option to keep my children safe in public?

Stare at me all you want in public, call me names – it’s not going to bother me.

Using a child harness is not punishing your child, it’s being safe.

Sometimes I wonder if a child harness is my only option to keep my children safe in public?

They say “get control of your child and teach her how to behave in public.”

It is so easy to point fingers when you are not in someone else’s shoes.

I have to make decisions that I feel are right for my family.

I love my babies and would do anything to keep them safe, and if my putting a harness on my energetic toddler is going to do that then so be it.

I’d rather face criticism than lose my child ….

What are your thoughts on this?

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  1. Latisha
    2016-07-09 / 20:35

    Love your post. I agree with you 100%, so many kids are curious and end up wondering around as Moms do their shopping. I also have a harness for my toddler and have used it. I don’t care what anyone thinks. I know that my kids are safe. For me to not live in fear. I would rather have my hubby go get some items or I go on my own. And leave the kids with my hubby. The world we live in is wicked and I would rather have my toddler and baby safe at home than trying multi task at their expense. Occasionally I take my son with me. But both of them together requires another adult…

  2. 2016-07-19 / 04:46

    I think you have to do what’s right for your situation. People are going to find something to judge no matter what.

  3. Elizabeth O.
    2016-07-19 / 06:54

    We can only do so much to keep them safe. The world is a cruel place to live in right now and we do the best we can to raise the kids well. I think all you need to do is just stick with what makes you feel safe when you’re out with the kids. If you feel like using a harness then that’s fine.

  4. Nicole Escat
    2016-07-20 / 05:22

    I like the backpacks with a harness. I don’t mind giving my son like these things because of the harmful environment we have today.

  5. 2016-07-23 / 10:35

    I don’t yet have kids and I was honestly motified when I saw parents using the harness on kids. I thought they were treating them like animals. Then my nephew was born and our little bugger is never still so when they bought the harness for him I was again motifified then I had to look after him and I realised why they needed it. That video also just made my conviction even stronger than the harness does more good than harm in this day and age, sad but the truth

  6. 2017-01-23 / 14:52

    If you feel a harness is going to give you the security that you seek, then use one! I have bought numerous harnesses for Axl – he hates them – but I am at the stage where he either wears the harness or no shopping with mommy. I have had my cellphones stolen from my handbag, in a pram, mere centimeters from where my child slept. It was the wakeup call I needed. I don’t care what anyone thinks or says, it is my responsibility to keep my children safe – they can judge, but at least I am comforted knowing that what I am doing is my very best to keeping my kids safe. Do you babe, don’t let the judgement and glares change what makes you comfortable especially while trying to wrangle three kids while shopping – I can just imagine!

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