I sent my almost 3-year-old for a sleepover

The last 2 weeks has been crazy in the Vijendranath household. Kitana picked up a bug from school (Oh the joys of sending your toddler to school) and I ended up getting it from her. It’s like my body knew I needed some time out since I’ve been overwhelmed with work the last couple weeks.

This past weekend, I felt like I got punched by Dwayne Johnson (You know the hot cop with lots of muscle from Fast and Furious?)… 0_O I had hectic body pains and all I wanted to do was stay in bed. With a toddler around AND being pregnant that’s like close to impossible.

So my mom decided to take Kitana to my cousin’s house on Saturday for a sleepover. Kitana has never stayed without me and she’s still breastfeeding (well …kinda) so I was extremely nervous and wasn’t sure if it would work. Even though I wanted me-time, I kept thinking: “This is not going to work, you will be driving at 2am in the morning to fetch a screaming child”…

My mom managed to convince me and by 1pm, she and Kitana left for their sleepover. To be honest, the only place I will send her for a sleepover is to family… She will have to wait until she’s 18 to sleepover at a friend’s house!

Once Kitana left, the paranoid mommy in me came out! I panicked the entire time and kept calling to see if they reached and if she was okay.

The weird thing is, Vije and I so wanted time to ourselves but once Kitana left we felt so incomplete. I didn’t know what to do…The house was quiet, Vije was working and here was I sitting by myself thinking about my child.

Kitana enjoyed bonding with her cousins while I kept worrying. Before she left, I told her: “Mommy is going to work, so you need to stay with your granny”. She said: “Yes mom.” and waved goodbye…

I never realised how difficult this would be for me… My baby was going for her first sleepover!


Kitana understands everything. She’s an independent toddler that’s on a mission!

I still can’t believe that she can stay without me and the boob overnight! It was one of the hardest decisions I made. I felt so empty without my princess.

Now I understand why my mom used to call me 500 times when I was with friends.

Even though this weekend was a rollercoaster of emotions for me, I think I will send her again because now I know she will be okay.

The key is communication. Kitana and I finally understand each other and our relationship has improved. She’s not clingy anymore. I’m enjoying these moments we share and I’m enjoying her hilarious questions. I still can’t believe in 2 months she will be 3-years-old.

Do you send your kids for sleepovers?

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  1. 2015-06-02 / 12:20

    We often have our kids sleepover at my in laws place. They know they don’t need us every second and Seth and I get to have time to be together and remember that we are more than just parents. I love it (insert guilty feeling for saying that here)

    • 2015-06-02 / 15:46

      That is so awesome! I love the way you said “more than parents” because I think sometimes we forget that! I’m so quoting you on that. Hehe! Thanks for reading.

  2. Tanya Jackson
    2015-06-02 / 14:41

    Shes a big girl now ๐Ÿ™‚

    • 2015-06-02 / 15:47

      Sniff… Yes…Thanks for reading!

  3. Desireen
    2015-06-02 / 14:56

    Hats off to you ๐Ÿ™‚ I don’t think another parent of a toddler would have a sleep over, hehe
    Alexia will be 4 on Thursday, I really don’t mind her sleeping over at a family’s place, but the DAD will…so its uphill for me ๐Ÿ™‚

    • 2015-06-02 / 15:44

      True, I wasn’t sure but she was with my mom so that helped! Hehe I understand, some dads are really over protective but you don’t blame them… Thanks for reading!

  4. 2015-06-02 / 23:04

    What a big step! I hope she had fun hanging out with grandma. I think it’s pretty normal to worry even when you know they’re safe.

  5. 2015-06-02 / 23:42

    We don’t have family that lives close, but we did take a vacation once when the kids were little- first time I’d been away from them overnight! It was tough- but worth it!

  6. 2015-06-03 / 02:10

    Your little girl did so well! That picture of her on the couch looks SO sweet!

  7. 2015-06-03 / 06:26

    I heard of people having anxiety attacks when letting their kids go with someone else even with family. Well enjoy the break and as much as you can before its two young ones in the house…then you will probably be begging for a sitter! LOL

  8. 2015-06-03 / 06:50

    Awwww bless I can only imagine, I do not yet have kids but I remember my mum even as an adult used to refuse me sleep overs now I am living by myself she calls so often its funny

  9. 2015-06-03 / 07:25

    Wow – that’s so awesome! I still remember my first sleepover and all the emotions I had with it!

  10. 2015-06-03 / 08:34

    My daughter will be 5 in September and she has NEVER spent the night away from me lol. I have such high anxiety sending her anywhere but I’m realizing how bad it is for her, she’s just as clingy to me. I’m working on at least letting her play at her aunts house for an hour or two once a week. It’s horrible I know lol.

  11. 2015-06-03 / 09:19

    Aww! Your daughter is beautiful! My niece is 1 1/2 and I do not want her to grow up! I loved sleepovers when I was little. Was so much fun to stay over at friends’ and families houses and vice versa! ๐Ÿ™‚

  12. 2015-06-03 / 09:33

    Yes, my son had sleepovers with my parents. He enjoyed it. It is good for children to be away from you.

  13. 2015-06-03 / 10:10

    This would help her be independent. I can see how anxious it must have been to be away from her for a day but in the long run, she needs to learn to be independent too.

  14. Rebecca Swenor
    2015-06-03 / 10:16

    Our children always surprise us when it comes to them leaving us. I have my baby graduating this Friday and I know I will be crying through the ceremony. It is hard to let go but we know we have to so they can grow. Thanks for sharing.

  15. 2015-06-03 / 14:45

    Thank you for allowing me to learn something new! I never knew it was so difficult for parents to have child sleepover but three, I might be concerned too!

  16. Tom
    2015-06-03 / 18:23

    It is always hard to send your child for their first sleepover. But it can also be fun at the same time. Hope she had an awesome time!!

  17. 2015-06-03 / 21:41

    Awww this is so sweet and just too cute because I sooooooooo remember when, but here’s the thing I worked second shift and for a while (only a few months because I couldn’t take working nights) I worked nights, so my children had to sleep over, but it was by my mother’s. Dear ol’ sweet gramma always stepped in when needed and sometimes just because. She was so good that way. All four would take turns, but sometimes I missed my babies. Sometimes she would pick one of them up *we lived close) just because she wanted to rock in her rocking chair while she watched a movie, but she needed a reason to rock I guess so she would pick up one of my babies. Mothers, hahaha go figure. I sure do miss mine!

  18. courtneylynne
    2015-06-04 / 04:02

    Awwwww this is such a cute idea!!!! I would love to have sleepovers for my 3 year old. She would have a blast! Just don’t know any other little kiddos lol

  19. 2015-06-04 / 04:52

    Awww, I can totally relate to this. It’s like this anytime my kids stay with a relative. I miss all the chaos and madness as soon as they’re out the door.

  20. John Lopez
    2015-06-04 / 06:12

    We sent my.kids to sleepover to my in laws, I can relate this post,y kids is in secondary school now sometimes we sent our kids to in laws if were my wife are have a business travel.

  21. 2015-06-05 / 07:34

    Awh, what a brave girl…and a brave Mama too! ๐Ÿ˜›
    Mine haven’t gone for sleepovers yet. The older boys have and they were 8&6, going together I believe.
    The youngest ones (3 and 2 in Aug) haven’ yet. I’m too nervous lol

  22. 2015-06-08 / 01:16

    I still have separation anxiety whenever I let my daughter do sleepover — and she’s 7! and she only do it with family of course.

  23. 2015-07-16 / 15:21

    I send my son for sleepovers to his grandparents all the time. Gives us a great date night! He has a very good relationship with them and probably won’t survive anywhere else!

    We always miss him and things feel very strange without him but it’s important for our marriage, and our sanity!

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