As I stood there and said farewell to my friend, I had a flash back… Me standing there and saying goodbye to my dad. It was one of the most painful experiences in my life but I remember it like it was yesterday. At least I got to say goodbye and I understood what was happening… but how do you explain to a 3-year-old and a baby that their mom isn’t coming back? Today I pray for strength for the entire family.
Thank you Divya for the smiles and warmth you always shared. You will never be forgotten and even as days go by and life continues, you will always have a special place in my heart.
We need to live like today is our last…by that I don’t mean jumping on a plane and flying to another country.
It means appreciating the moment you in.
Preparing a home cooked meal for your family and enjoying it together around a table… It means playing with your kids even when you are exhausted. It means tucking your child in bed instead of sitting on the phone scrolling down Facebook.
It means picking up the phone and calling a friend to let her know how grateful you are to have her in your life.
It means enjoying the craziness of parenting even though there’s chaos in your life. It means making memories not just money. It means controlling life and not letting life control you.
Maybe I don’t understand your schedule or why your house has to be perfect. Maybe I don’t understand your compulsion to always be busy but I do understand that sometimes we just need to step back and take a time out. Your legacy will be the memories created with the ones close to you. Should you not be around what would you want someone to remember when they think about you?
Do you want your kids to remember the mom that always shouted, the mom for whom nothing was ever good enough, or do you want them to remember the mom who danced with them in the rain, had picnics in the sun, or laughed with them ….
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I am so sorry for your lost. Divya is in a better place now and it’s important to remember all the good times you had with her so her memory can live on <3