At 20-years old I was focused on growing my business instead of dating. I never went through the phase of wanting the latest trends or saving towards buying a new pair of jeans.
I was saving to buy a laptop and searching for investors. I’ve always been business-minded, mom says I get that from my dad.
I knew what I wanted from a young age and most guys my age were still worried about styling their hair instead of worrying about their future. I couldn’t find a guy that understood what I wanted. Every guy I chatted to about business got bored out of their minds… until Vije arrived. The reason I told you this, is because that has a lot to do with how I met my prince charming. Read about my love story here.
The day I told my mom I wanted to get married, was the first day I saw her ‘shocked’ look. She wasn’t sure if I was feeling okay. The first thing she said: “You so young”… Yes… but I was ready! I knew it, I could feel it in my heart that this was the perfect time to get married.
When I told family and friends I was planning on getting married, the first question I was asked is: Are you pregnant?!
No, I wasn’t pregnant and I wasn’t going to elope. It’s the choice I made on my own, I was never pressurized by Vije.
Many people don’t know that Vije and I have a 10 years age gap. At first, we used to get lots of stares in public but after a while we ignored it… and now I don’t even notice it. Honestly, you would never say we 10 years apart because we get along extremely well and hardly ever fight. Our birthdays are 1 day apart and we have the same star sign yet we so compatible and make a great team.
I never intended on getting married at 20 but I knew I wanted a partner who would love and have a passion for business as much as I did. We met when I was 18 and ever since then we’ve been together.
Despite the judgment and misconceptions, I’m thankful I found my one and only when I was young. Marriage is no walk in the park and being married at a young age changes your lifestyle completely but that’s the decision I made. Instead of partying alone, I was partying with my husband. My friends loved Vije and everyone got along with him from day 1.
Married at 20 made me realize that love doesn’t need you to be a certain age. It can happen anytime.
When happiness comes knocking, you open and say welcome! Although my life isn’t like many 24-year olds now, I love it. I may be changing diapers instead of partying but that’s the choice I made.
There are certain things that I don’t love about my husband (like him leaving all the cupboard doors open) but I’ve learned to deal with it. He may drive me nuts at times but I still love him!
This year, Vije and I are celebrating 4 years of marriage. Each year has been a blessing and bringing a daughter into the world brought us even closer. Together we face challenges and yes it does get difficult at times but trust, love, and patience helps us through our difficult times.