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Positive Discipline – Is there such a thing for toddlers?

  • 2015-10-11
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  • Shan

We all know toddlers are a handful especially when they get to the terrible twoโ€™s and then become threenagers. I have always asked myself if positive discipline really exists?

I remember when Kitana turned two, I felt like I didnโ€™t know her anymore. Who was this child and what happened to my little sweetheart? My husband and I never really discussed methods for discipline, we just went with the flow and did what we thought was right. I think that I am the one that does the discipline. You know what they sayโ€ฆ Daughters are their fatherโ€™s angels. My husband is a real softy with my daughter.

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Iโ€™ve learnt that toddlers have big emotions and they can be really stubborn. Sometimes, as a parent I get frustrated, but then I have to take a step back and thinkโ€ฆ I have realised that being patient and understanding is very important especially when you are dealing with a two-year-old. Losing my temper isnโ€™t going to solve the problem instead it will make matters worse.

There are days your toddler will pee on the floor, scream for candy in a store or try to hit you in public when you say no. You will be tempted to retaliate but honestly I feel thatโ€™s not going to solve the problem in the long run.

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โ€œIf you have never been hated by your child, you have never been a parent.โ€ย –Bette Davis

I’ve got some tips for you to try discipline in a positive wayโ€ฆ

5 Quick Tips for Positive Discipline with a toddler:

1. Keep to your toddlers routine/schedule

Iโ€™ve noticed that when my daughter is sleepy, she gets extremely grumpy and starts fighting with everyone. This is when most of her meltdowns happen and if I miss that โ€œsleepy time periodโ€ she just refuses to take a nap and will instead throw a tantrum wherever we are. Itโ€™s important to have a schedule and itโ€™s important to stick with it.

2. Be consistent

Have a few rules and stick to them. Having lots of rules can confuse a child and cause more chaos especially when you go back and forth negotiating daily.

3. Reverse the negative

It is possible to discipline without saying no. I know a mom who โ€œsingsโ€ her rules to her toddler.

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4. Get down to your childโ€™s level, call your child by his/her name and make eye contact.

When Iโ€™m serious, I say my daughterโ€™s name. She knows I mean business. I always look into her eyes and explain to her the reason why she wonโ€™t be getting the toy. Toddlers are intelligent and sometimes just speaking to them like an adult helps.

5. Give your child a choice and try not to yell.

I used to be the mom that shouted all the time but it started to scare my daughter! I could see the fear in her eyes. I now use the โ€˜time outโ€™ method but I will whisper it to her: โ€œIf you donโ€™t listen, then you will have to sit in time outโ€. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesnโ€™t but being consistent helps.

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Remember their age and donโ€™t expect too much from them. Toddlers will always try to push the boundaries. Treat mistakes as an opportunity to learn and work together as a team to solve the problem. Reward charts are great to use and can help with positive discipline. My daughter gets extremely excited when she gets a star. Clickย hereย to download a reward chart.

“As your kids grow up they may forget what you said, but they won’t forget how you made them feel.” –Kevin Heath

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Hi, I'm Shan. I'm an entrepreneur and a sucker for good adventures. I was listed in Forbes Africa 30 under 30 2019 and just recently launched my start-up โ€“ MomSays.

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6 comments
  1. Jenn @ EngineerMommy says:
    2015-10-13 at 13:17

    I use positive discipline with my kids! However, parenting a toddler can definitely be challenging at times! They know how to test the limits! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Reply
  2. Jaime Nicole says:
    2015-10-13 at 14:49

    Being consistent is such a good tip. Once you waffle or give in once, kids learn that really quickly. Having consistent rules makes life easier!

    Reply
  3. Mistee Dawn says:
    2015-10-14 at 05:17

    Oh my goodness! I do not even know how I handles my daughter’s terrible twos! lol. Good luck!

    Reply
  4. Stephanie says:
    2015-10-14 at 09:53

    I have 3 kids, and all of them are out of the toddler years. These are good tips though – the most important thing is loving them, even when they’re not acting very lovable!

    Reply
  5. michele d says:
    2015-10-14 at 15:03

    I’m thankful that my toddler years are over. They actually weren’t bad at all. Great tips for those who are experiencing this.

    Reply
  6. Bonnie @wemake7 says:
    2015-10-14 at 19:38

    We are still in the terrible 2’s here with our 3 year old. He is into everything lol. I love this post and quotes and tips you shared.

    Reply

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