Many people have different opinions on this topic but as a breastfeeding mother, today I will share my thoughts with you. When Kitana was born I promised myself I will let her sleep in the cot only, I really thought I would be able to stick to that promise. Little did I realise one naughty habit could change that decision forever… I never bought a feeding chair so I used to take her to bed and breastfeed, as time went on..we used to fall asleep together while breastfeeding. It was the perfect picture. I loved it, I felt so close to my baby and we bonded more each day.
When Vije went to Sweden for a month to work during winter, I felt so bad leaving Kitana in the cot alone so I decided to bring her to bed with me… and from then she stayed in bed with us. I never realised it would be so difficult to put her back in the cot, I tried several times and she used to wake up immediately. I tried everything, from sleeping bags to making her fall asleep first then putting her down. I even tried making the mattress warmer or cooler.I tried to cut down breastfeeding at night but she used to wake up crying because she had got used to the habit which I taught her. I felt terrible and decided to give up.
Co-sleeping wasn’t my plan, I wanted to hold my husband and sleep while my baby had her own space in the cot.I was always against co-sleeping but it came to a stage where I had no choice but to adapt to it. That’s why I suggest to new moms, think carefully on the type of cot you plan on getting, don’t get one only because its cheap or looks pretty. This decision can affect you for years to come. I know I learnt my lesson and will consider this if I plan on having a second baby.
Kitana is now 17 months and still in my bed. The cot has become a place to keep clothes and collect dust while she kicks the blanket at night and takes half of the bed. Mommy has a little portion to sleep in and my breasts are exposed most of the night… but you know what? I started to enjoy it.
If she sleeps in the cot, I will miss these moments. She’s only a baby once, soon she will be out of my bed and into her own room. So I decided I rather make the most of this and enjoy my baby girl.
I get to watch that gorgeous face fall asleep every night and cuddle with her when it is cold.
I get to see her smile in the morning while she’s busy trying to dig into my nose.
I get to hear that sweet voice every morning saying mama when she’s trying to wake me up and I get to smell those nasty farts while she sleeps every night. The Joys of Co-sleeping. I found this picture below which you might agree with or not.
Many fathers do not like co-sleeping and it becomes a big problem at home. It is always best to discuss this with your husband and hear his thoughts. Make a decision together on how you are going to grow up your kids. We decided to stop sleep training because it started affecting me emotionally. I could not stand hearing her cry, I used to cry too.
Vije and I discussed it and together we decided to let her co-sleep since it was the only way to get a good nights rest.
If you are planning on co-sleeping, I suggest get something like the Chicco co-sleeper:
OR you will end up with something like this:
Let me know your thoughts and if you are co-sleeping.