Dear husband, this is what your wife needs from you during her pregnancy.


Dear husband, this is what your wife needs from you during her pregnancy.

Today, your wife wants to share her feelings on being pregnant with you. She also wants to let you know of the little things that she would like from you during this exciting, emotional, rollercoaster phase in our lives.

I’m going, to be honest with you, so don’t judge me and hate me. I would really still like you to buy me those donuts you promised this morning… even after you read this. 😛

Pregnancy is such a beautiful journey that two people go on together. Yes, it includes you, my dear husband. But it’s also a very stressful, crazy, whirlwind, and sometimes rough time in our lives.

I’ve experienced feelings and symptoms that I’ve never felt before.

Not everything is about me and what I want or need during this time. It’s also about us, our marriage, our love, and the little miracle growing inside me that we created together!

I need your support, your affection and for you to communicate with me every step of the way. WE are a team and WE are in this together.

I know it may be hard for you right now because I push you away at times and it honestly feels like I’m not the woman you married but the truth is… my hormones are raging!

I feel like I have an alternate personality at the moment and I really can’t control it.

Some days I feel like I want to punch you in the face while other days I wish you grabbed my hand and kissed me when I least expected it.

Some days I think about having sex in odd places while other days I wish your penis never existed.


Stop asking me if the baby is hurting while we having sex… trust me, the baby can’t feel your penis.

My boobs may have gotten bigger but that doesn’t mean you can touch them whenever you want. You might end up getting replaced with a pregnancy pillow at night.

I know that you think that I am a difficult person to deal with right now but please understand – I am swollen, hungry, gassy, and tired. The last thing on my mind is having a quickie when I can’t even see how my vagina looks like right now.

Most days, I don’t feel pretty.

Sometimes even I can’t explain how I am feeling but all I know is that I need you to keep telling me that I am beautiful even when I’m lying on the hospital bed in tears and pain about to birth our child.

I need you to surprise me when you can – spoil me with a foot massage or cook dinner for us.

There is a little human growing inside me – a little person who takes a lot of my energy – physically and emotionally.

I need food, feed me constantly. And no, I cannot share it with you.

Being a mom of two with the third on the way is exhausting. Some days I just wait for you to ask me: “What can I help you with right now my darling?” but that never happens…

I need you to care for the kids while I take some time alone to rest and have a nap.

Is this too much to ask for?

I’m getting fat and lethargic. I am not being lazy so don’t rub it in.

Help me with the daily chores and come with me to doctor’s appointments.

Take me to a movie or let’s go for a weekend away and indulge in delicious food that I’ve been dreaming about.

I want to spend as much time as I can with you before everything changes all over again.

Talk to my belly and sing to your baby.

I know you will enjoy feeling those tiny kicks too.


Share my excitement and help me prepare.

I know I’ve been going overboard with storage containers.

But Nesting is serious business.

Sometimes I feel like I’m losing my mind because I’m not sure if I bought what I went to the store to buy.

Pregnancy brain is a real thing… 

I know this is scary for you but it’s also scary for me. I didn’t realize how much gas I had until now.

My sense of humor doesn’t exist anymore.

I didn’t imagine crying in a store over washing powder that was out of stock would be a reality.

But it’s happening.

I’m starting to waddle when I walk.

I cry when things don’t happen the way I want it too.

I cry when things happen the way they are supposed to.


I scream at you for absolutely nothing.

But I still love you.


Remember there will be good and bad days… but I need you to get through them all.

Just be there – Have lots of tissues, love, and patience… and if you want to know a little secret – along with the tissues always have my favorite snack. Even if it may change, I will know that you are always thinking of me.

Let’s enjoy this rollercoaster ride …. TOGETHER.

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Hi, I’m Shan. I’m an entrepreneur and a sucker for good adventures. I was listed in Forbes Africa 30 under 30 2019 and just recently launched my start-up – MomSays.

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  1. 2017-12-22 / 09:12

    Could you do an article of how you change as a woman after the baby.

    How priorities change and all?

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