You’re a mom – no matter what the world says…

Dear mom, today I am going to free you from judgment and guilt. I want you to take a minute and praise yourself, in fact, give yourself a pat on the back for everything that you have accomplished as a mother.

Why? You may ask.

Well … because motherhood is exhausting! But YOU did it and YOU continue doing it…. because seeing a smile on your child’s face brightens up your day and hearing your child say “Mama” for the first time melts your heart.

The world expects you to be this perfect mother like the magazine says you should be but you are not, you are REAL. You don’t have nanny’s hovering about, you do the best that you can with what you have.

Maybe today was one of those rough days… You may have come across an article about breastfeeding and now you look down on yourself because you are formula feeding or perhaps your newborn won’t stop crying… but guess what?

You didn’t let your child starve… so you formula fed. You didn’t ignore your colic newborn so you consoled him. You managed it, you survived even with tears in your eyes… because you’re an amazing mother.

The truth about being a parent

You are not a bad mother for choosing to have a C-Section. Having a natural med free birth does not give you the mom of the year award because motherhood is not a competition.

You shouldn’t be judged for adopting a child or getting a surrogate mother because it doesn’t matter how you became a mother, what matters is that YOU are a mom and YOU are good one – actually a GREAT ONE – because you try.

Be proud of your body and your journey.

I know there is a lot of pressure out there. The world expects you to be the DIY mom, the size 30 mom but you’re not… You’re the REAL mom with uncombed hair, sweaty armpits and oversized clothing who longs for a shower.

I want you to know that you not alone, there are many of us out there.

You deserve respect and love.

The world will always judge but you don’t need to listen. Eleanor Roosevelt — ‘No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.’

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Hi, I’m Shan. I’m an entrepreneur and a sucker for good adventures. I was listed in Forbes Africa 30 under 30 2019 and just recently launched my start-up – MomSays.

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  1. 2015-10-19 / 14:34

    Amen to this. Mom’s have the hardest but most rewarding jobs in the world. I say this with exhaustion after the weekend but with love.

  2. 2015-10-21 / 03:04

    This is such a beautiful post. Being a MOM is a tough one and it takes a lot of love and patience to be one. I see how tiring it could get at times ( not one, but I see it through friends and my own Mom ) but at the same time, it is also fulfilling.

    • 2015-10-21 / 15:09

      Thank you. Yes it is one crazy journey. 😛

  3. Carolyn Augustus
    2015-10-28 / 11:49

    I just wish that everyone all moms could realise that the “perfect mom” is only myth and only exists in the movies. Mothers make mistakes and at the end of the day those mistakes make us better moms.

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